http://vibrantlyalivewomen.com/463/defining-success-for-ourselves/ From self-doubt to full out! Fri, 02 Apr 2010 18:10:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://vibrantlyalivewomen.com/463/defining-success-for-ourselves/comment-page-1/#comment-14 shawn Mon, 27 Aug 2007 13:10:29 +0000 http://www.joyouslifeworks.com/?p=16#comment-14 Thanks, Neysa. Yes, the stretching and self-discovery are certainly two aspects of what I consider success, however, for me, this redefinition is even more basic. It's loving being me, even when I am afraid to stretch or even to set a goal. Somehow loving being a frightened person frees something up in me...I guess it's that I'm no longer judging myself as bad or pathetic, so I might be more willing to stretch or set a goal. I DO love the heart of this being who wants so much to do things perfectly, and because she can't do much perfectly, frequently doesn't "go for it!" Maybe loving being me is being compassionate with myself and appreciating the courage it takes to keep moving...even if it's at a slower-than-snail's-pace. Maybe loving being me is appreciating that my heart has hope... Thanks, Neysa. Yes, the stretching and self-discovery are certainly two aspects of what I consider success, however, for me, this redefinition is even more basic. It’s loving being me, even when I am afraid to stretch or even to set a goal. Somehow loving being a frightened person frees something up in me…I guess it’s that I’m no longer judging myself as bad or pathetic, so I might be more willing to stretch or set a goal. I DO love the heart of this being who wants so much to do things perfectly, and because she can’t do much perfectly, frequently doesn’t “go for it!” Maybe loving being me is being compassionate with myself and appreciating the courage it takes to keep moving…even if it’s at a slower-than-snail’s-pace. Maybe loving being me is appreciating that my heart has hope…

]]> http://vibrantlyalivewomen.com/463/defining-success-for-ourselves/comment-page-1/#comment-13 Neysa Sat, 25 Aug 2007 18:45:05 +0000 http://www.joyouslifeworks.com/?p=16#comment-13 Being successful seems to have two components - setting a goal or target that will stretch or challenge us and the feeling that comes from achieving it. My sense it that when I set my goal from the perspective of my "big" self, that expansive, Spirit-aligned part of me, the entire process enhances my sense of success. It sets the stage for self-discovery as I explore how the various parts of me can be used in service of the goal. If I've chosen an appropriate goal, then the achievement of that goal allows me to luxuriate in the sense of increased capacity. I suspect this is what you mean by 'loving being you'. Being successful seems to have two components – setting a goal or target that will stretch or challenge us and the feeling that comes from achieving it. My sense it that when I set my goal from the perspective of my “big” self, that expansive, Spirit-aligned part of me, the entire process enhances my sense of success. It sets the stage for self-discovery as I explore how the various parts of me can be used in service of the goal. If I’ve chosen an appropriate goal, then the achievement of that goal allows me to luxuriate in the sense of increased capacity. I suspect this is what you mean by ‘loving being you’.

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